我想成為鼓掌的人﹏﹏家有中等生

 女兒的同學都管她叫'二十三號'。她的班總共有五十個人，

而每每考試，女兒都排名二十三。

久而久之，便有了這個雅號，她也就成了名副其實的中等生。                          

我們覺得這外號刺耳，女兒卻欣然接受。

 人家的孩子，不僅成績出類拔萃，而且特長多多。

唯有我們家的'二十三號女生'，沒有一樣值得炫耀的地方。    

中秋節，親友相聚，坐滿了一個寬大的包廂。

眾人的話題，也漸漸轉向各家的小兒女。

趁著酒興，要孩子們說說將來要做什麼。 

鋼琴家，明星，政界要人，孩子們毫不怯場，

連那個四歲半的女孩，也會說將來要做電視的主持人，贏得一陣讚歎。            

 大家忽然想起，只剩她沒說了。

在眾人的催促下，她認真地回答：

'長大了，我的第一志願是，當幼稚園老師，領著孩子們唱歌跳舞，做遊戲。'

眾人禮貌地表示贊許，緊接著追問她的第二志願。

她大大方方地說：

'我想做媽媽，穿著印叮噹貓的圍裙，在廚房做晚餐，然後，給我的孩子講故事，

領著他在陽臺上看星星。'

親友愕然，面面相覷，不知道該說些什麼。

 老公的神情，極為尷尬。 

  回家後，他歎著氣說，你還真打算讓女兒將來當個幼稚園老師？

我們難道真的眼睜睜地看著她當中等生？

  其實，我們也動過很多腦筋。

為提高她的學習成績，請家教，報輔導班，買各種各樣的資料。            

孩子也蠻懂事，漫畫書不看了，剪紙班退出了，週末的懶覺放棄了。

像一隻疲憊的小鳥，她從一個班趕到另一個班，卷子，練習冊，一遝遝地做。

  但到底是個孩子，身體先扛不住了，得了重感冒。

掉著點滴，在病床上，她還堅持寫作業，最後引發了肺炎。

病好後，孩子的臉小了一圈。

可期末考試的成績，仍然是讓我們哭笑不得的二十三名。  

後來，我們也曾試過增加營養、物質激勵等等，幾次三番地折騰下來，女兒的小臉越來越蒼白。            

而且，一說要考試，她就開始厭食，失眠，冒虛汗，再接著，考出了令我們瞠目結舌的三十三名。            

  我和老公，悄無聲息地放棄了轟轟烈烈的揠苗助長活動。

恢復了她正常的作息時間，還給她畫漫畫的權利，

允許她繼續訂《兒童幽默》之類的書報，家中安穩了很久。

我們對女兒，是心疼的，可面對她的成績，又有說不出的困惑。            

  週末，一群同事結伴郊遊。大家各自做了最拿手的菜，帶著老公和孩子去野餐。

一路上笑語盈盈，這家孩子唱歌，那家孩子表演小品。 

女兒沒什麼看家本領，只是開心地不停鼓掌。

她不時跑到後面，照看著那些食物。

把傾斜的飯盒擺好，松了的瓶蓋擰緊，流出的菜汁擦淨。忙忙碌碌，像個細心的小管家。

 野餐的時候，發生了一件意外的事。

兩個小男孩，一個數理天才，一個英語高手，

兩人同時夾住盤子?的一塊糯米餅，誰也不肯放手，更不願平分。

豐盛的美食，源源不斷地擺上來，他們看都不看。大人們又笑又歎，連勸帶哄，可怎麼都不管用。

最後，還是女兒，用擲硬幣的方法，輕鬆地打破了這個僵局。            

  回來的路上，堵車，一些孩子焦躁起來。女兒的笑話一個接一個，全車人都被逗樂了。

她手底下也沒閒著，用裝食品的彩色紙盒，剪出許多小動物，引得這群孩子讚歎不已。            

直到下車，每個人都拿到了自己的生肖剪紙。聽到孩子們連連道謝，老公禁不住露出了自豪的微笑。            

  期中考試後，我接到了女兒班主任的電話。首先得知，女兒的成績，仍是中等。

不過，他說，有一件奇怪的事想告訴我，他從教三十年了，第一次遇見這種事。             

語文試卷上有一道附加題：你最欣賞班?的哪位同學，請說出理由。

除女兒之外，全班同學，竟然都寫上了女兒的名字。  

  理由很多：熱心助人，守信用，不愛生氣，好相處等等，寫得最多的是，樂觀幽默。            

班主任還說，很多同學建議，由她來擔任班長。他感歎道：

你這個女兒，雖說成績普通，可是做人，實在很優秀!  

  我開玩笑地對女兒說，你快要成為英雄了。正在織圍巾的女兒，歪著頭想了想，

認真地告訴我說，老師曾講過一句格言：當英雄路過的時候，總要有人坐在路邊鼓掌。            

她輕輕地說：'媽媽，我不想成為英雄，我想成為坐在路邊鼓掌的人。

'我猛地一震，默默地打量著她。    

 她安靜地織著絨線，淡粉的線，在竹針上纏纏繞繞，仿佛一寸一寸的光陰，

在她手?，吐出星星點點的花蕾。我心?，竟是驀地一暖。

那一刻，我忽然被這個不想成為英雄的女孩打動了。

這世間，有多少人，年少時渴望成為英雄，最終卻成了煙火紅塵?的平凡人。            

  如果健康，如果快樂，如果，沒有違背自己的心意，

我們的孩子，又何妨做一個善良的普通人。            

 長大成人後，她一定會成為：賢淑的妻子，溫柔的母親，甚至，熱心的同事，和善的鄰居。            

在那些漫長的歲月，她都能安然地過著自己想要的生活。 

  作為父母，還想為孩子祈求怎樣更好的未來呢？

 

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一生只有兩天

就先從賈伯斯追女朋友講起囉！
賈伯斯是誰？他是蘋果公司的創辦人，是世界第一部個人電腦的發明人之ㄧ，也就是出產iPhone公司的老闆。

話說1985年，賈伯斯被自己創立的蘋果公司掃地出門！
可以想像當時的打擊有多大，但是賈伯斯只鬱卒了一下子，很快他就振作起來了。
有一天 他在一所大學演講，「她」坐在聽眾席聆聽，賈伯斯被煞到了。
活動一結束，賈伯斯就去跟「她」聊天，拿到了電話號碼。

原本想開口約「她」當天晚上一起吃晚餐，可是又正好有個會議要開，只好把快要說出口的話，吞了回去。

當賈伯斯準備去開車離開時，他問了自己一個「老問題」，這是他每天早上面對鏡子，
問自己的一個問題 -

 「如果今天是我這輩子的最後一天，我今天要做些什麼？」 ........

 

答案出來了，賈伯斯馬上跑回去演講廳找「她」，約去共進晚餐。
這位「她」- Laurene Powell寶兒 - 現在就是賈伯斯的老婆。

 引述賈伯斯的一段話：「提醒自己快死了，是我在人生中 面臨重大決定時，所用過最重要的方法。因為幾乎每件事－所有外界期望、所有的名聲、所有對困窘或失敗的恐懼－在面對死亡時，都消失了，只有最真實重要的東西才會留下。」
賈伯斯又補充說：「提醒自己快死了，是我所知，避免掉入畏懼、失去的陷阱裡，最好的方法。
人生不帶來、死不帶去，沒理由不能順心而為。」

 我們也靜下心來，問自己「最後一天」這個問題 -
「如果今天是我這輩子的最後一天，我今天要做些什麼？」
「第一天」又是什麼呢？
當「第一天」入大學讀書，我們對學校、課本、同學充滿好奇心~
當「第一天」進公司上班，我們謙虛，願意學習，有衝勁~ 

-當「第一天」約會，我們小鹿亂撞，珍惜相處的每一刻~ 

-當「第一天」晉升職等，新官上任三把火，有滿腹雄心壯志，要有所作為~

回想我們做任何事的「第一天」，都是我們最有活力的一天。
時光不能倒流，但態度可以回轉。

 一生 只要兩天，就擁有了每一天。

用「最後一天」的心情去選擇下一步，我們會更有方向；

用「第一天」的態度去做每一件事，我們會更有活力，更能成功。

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The Front Splits Fast Flexibility program（轉載）

 Hi Lisa!

 

I am anxiously awaiting the arrival of the DVDs and manual.

Your mails have made my awaiting even more valuable.

I am so in to the program already.

 

I have been a ballet teacher for many years. After childbirth two times, my hips became so weak and tight . I pull my hamstring very often (way up high into my left hip) the pain is grueling to get rid of. I still do the front split in ballet class, though it causes pain in the left leg.

 

I have discovered that my right leg is stronger than my left leg. The way I stand and walk is imbalanced. I tend to put my weight on my right leg. Maybe that’s why I always pull my left leg.

 

I see my adult students in ballet class (they are between 25-55 years old) all tried very hard to do the splits, but for some of them the progress is so limited. I am looking forward to finding the way to help them break through in a safe way.

 

Also, for my younger ballet students, their parents worry that doing the splits will make their children stop growing. I tell them it will not happen.

 

My two daughtors quit ballet class after two years because of the extringly pain split. I hope it will never happen to my students. Ballet is such a beautiful thing. Improving flexibility and strength is necessary in the training process. Everyone enjoys watching a dancer place their leg in a really high position, but behind that is the hard work which is beyond people’s imagination.

 

Some say:no pain no game. But not every kid wants to be a professional dancer. I want to challenge them to improve their technique but also help them to enjoy dancing . Not like my daughters as pain is the only thing that they can remember from ballet class.

 

 

Sincerely,

Hui-ling( Taipei , Taiwan )

 

 

 

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The Front Splits Fast Flexibility program(2)（轉載）

Hi Hui-Ling

I hope that you have had time to think about the things I mentioned in the last email and noticed any tension that you were holding during the last few days. I have received lots of emails from people noticing all kinds of things that can contribute to decreased flexibility!

I also received this email from a Mother and dance teacher with a few questions about tension in the hip flexors. This is  related to some things that we discuss in the program so I thought that you would appreciate the answers I gave her. 

 

Hi Lisa,  I am really excited to start working with your program both with my own kids (golf, soccer, hapkido, track) and with all of the ballet students that I teach.

 I feel that any question I ask right now might be premature since I have not yet started the program, but I will go ahead and shoot them off because this is an area I have been studying and researching for years. The little girl who is playing Clara in my Nutcracker this year is a very strong, dedicated dancer. Her main holdback has been her turn-out. She seems to have extremely tight (sometimes painful) hip flexors which makes turning out very limited. She is also quite involved in swimming. I have noticed with other dancers who swim that they also have tight hips. One student who did not have any tightness started swimming for PE in high school, and also immediately started complaining of sore hips. Is there any relation? Can the hip flexors be a big problem both in flexibility and turnout range? Can there be improvement with proper care and knowledge as in your program?

 Also, my son is involved in Hapkido. He is very aware of good stretching and seems to be quite flexible. However, he seems to always also be tight in his hip flexors, and seems to regularly pull his hamstring (way up high into his hip). Is it possible there is just a weakness here, or after being injured can't quite completely heal? He continues a cycle of going regularly to class, injuring himself, stopping because of the pain, waiting for it to feel better, and then continuing again.

 I know how busy you are, so if you have any time to address my questions I will feel extremely honored. I have greatly enjoyed all of the information in the Perfect Pointe System and thank you for your dedication and wisdom.

 Sincerely,

 Kelly M ( Tustin , California )

 

Hi Kelly, and thanks so much for your question! Yes, there is definitely a relationship with tension in the hips flexors and reduced turnout and flexibility, and also between reduced turnout and flexibility and tension in the hips! It is one of those "chicken or the egg" scenarios!

If it is hard to turn the hip out fully, when we attempt to lift the leg into retiré (passé)  a little muscle over the front/side of the hip called your TFL often works much harder than it is designed for.  (You will learn more about this muscle in the program). Overuse can obviously cause pain and tension in the hips. Tension in this muscle will then block turnout, especially when in standing.

In relation to swimming, there are two possible reasons for the tension developing in the hips.

1) How much Breaststroke have each of the students been doing? While swimming can be great for releasing tension in the spine, depending on the technique of the swimmer (or lack thereof...) tension may build in the hips from repeated hip flexion during breaststroke. If technique is sound, I do not see that this should be a problem, and I personally swam considerable distances when I was dancing with no detrimental effect!

2) The other thing that I would take a look at is the posture that both your son and your 'Clara' stand in outside of class. I have discovered that one of the biggest contributors to tight hips is the students casual standing posture, as opposed to the posture that they hold in class. Especially note if they tend to tilt the pelvis forward (bottom out), or sit into one hip. Posture may also be affected if the student is getting cold after swimming and sits huddled with the hips flexed to keep warm (a very common position).

Swimming is a great adjunct to dancing as it can give a good form of cardiovascular exercise without any load on the feet or lower limbs. Perhaps just drop the breaststroke for a few weeks and see if this changes things.

With your son, often recurrent strains of the hamstring are due to underlying tension in the nerves (has he had a recent growth spurt?) or an imbalance in the strength of his hamstrings and gluteals (buttock muscles). We will be discussing the issue of neural tension in detail in the dvds, so make sure you follow all of the testing carefully and try the releases on him to see the difference. I am sure that he will notice a difference straight away!

This is a great reminder to us all that it is often what we do with our bodies outside of class that dictate how mobile it is in any given direction. Always be mindful of your posture and how this can affect your mobility.

There are lots of gentle hip release techniques in the program, so once your DVDs arrive, work on that section to discover new ways of improving the mobility in this area!

Let me know what you discover!

Kindest regards,

Lisa

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The Front Splits Fast Flexibility program(1)（轉載）

Hi Hui-Ling

I know that you will be anxiously awaiting the arrival of your dvds and manual, but for now, lets get on with starting to learn some secrets about of unlocking your body!
The Front Splits Fast Flexibility program is extremely unique in that is NOT based around trying to stretch muscles to make them longer. Throughout my training and in the last 10 years of working with dancers, I discovered so many extraordinary facts about flexibility and techniques that can make massive changes in such a short time that I felt I had to get this information out into the world.

The dvd's demonstrate all of the concepts tests and exercises to make it easy, but it will help if you have a bit of a background into the concepts that we will be working with before your package arrives.

The first concept that I introduce in the dvd is the power of your mind in relation to your flexibility.

 

If you think about it, the only way a muscle can contract is when a message gets sent from your brain to your muscle to tell it to do so - whether this is a conscious message or a nonconscuios one. Without this message, your muscles are pretty flaccid and extensible. One of the most important things that we need to do when working on our global flexibility is to reduce the amount of non-conscious contraction that is going on in our bodies every day.

 

We will obviously be exploring this is greater detail in the dvds, but for today I just want you to do one thing .At 20 different points during the day, pause and take note of how you are holding your body. Where are your shoulders? Is there tension in your neck? Are your buttocks relaxed. Especially note your mood or emotions and how this changes your muscle tension.

 

Don't worry about changing anything just yet, just start to become more aware of how you are carrying yourself during the day, and let me know what you discover.

 

Enjoy, and I look forward to hearing what you find!

This is going to be an extraordinary journey for you - I promise!

Talk Soon,

Lisa   

 
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人力資源 公司的性向測驗

費爾醫生（Dr. Phil）的測驗  第一，要絕對誠實；  第二，選擇答案是依據您現在的觀點，而不是您從前的看法； 第三，要逐題順序回答，不要偷看得分表後再作選擇。   作答時、把答案寫在紙上。OK 我們現在開始： 1   一天中你在那一段時間裏精神最好？ a) 上午 b) 下午與傍晚 c) 深夜 2   你走路時經常是… a) 大步走得蠻快的 b) 小步走得蠻快的 c) 抬頭，眼觀四方地緩行 d) 低頭慢步 e) 走得極慢 3     當與別人講話的時候，您是… a) 雙臂交疊 b) 雙手緊握 c) 一手或雙手放在腰股上 d) 與對話者勾肩搭背 e) 摸耳朵，踫下巴或理頭髮 4     當你坐下來休息放鬆的時候… a) 雙膝彎曲，雙腿整齊地併排端坐 b) 雙腿交坐 c) 雙腿直直地向外伸 d) 你坐在一彎腿上 5   當某件事使你覺得非常有趣好笑時，你的反應是… a) 盡情大笑 b) 不大聲的笑 c) 無聲的輕笑 d) 靦腆的微笑 6   當你參加宴會、集會時，你常是… a) 故意在進場時讓大家都注意你 b) 平平常常地進場，進去後放眼去找有沒有認得的人 c) 極安靜地進場，最好不被任何人發現 7      當你專心工作時被打擾的話，你會…             a) 正好乘機把工作停放一下 b) 覺得非常討厭 c) 在二者之間 8   你最喜歡下列的那一種顏色？            a) 紅色或橙色            b) 黑色 c) 黃色或淺藍色 d) 綠色 e) 深藍或紫色 f ) 白色 g) 棕色或灰色 9    晚上當你躺在床上，入睡前的幾分鐘，你經常是… a) 伸腿仰臥 b) 伸腿趴睡 c) 側臥，腿微彎 d) 將頭枕在一臂上 e) 蒙頭而睡 10    常常夢見你在…         a) 往下跌         b) 打鬥或掙扎         c) 尋找某些東西或某人         d) 天上飛翔或水上飄浮         e) 你通常無夢         f) 你的夢總是非常愉快的 計分表 題 a b c d e f g 1 2 4 6         2 6 4 7 2 1     3 4 2 5 7 6     4 4 6 2 1       5 6 4 3 5 2     6 6 4 2         7 6 2 4         8 6 7 5 4 3 2 1 9 7 6 4 2 1     10 4 2 3 5 6 1   現在將總分算出來。 超過60分： 在別人眼裏，你是需要當心對付的人。你看起來是自負與自我中心的人，且具有相當強烈的統治欲。別人也許會崇拜你，希望能像你一樣，但他們不會太相信你，也不願與你深交。 51到60分： 在別人眼裏你是一個充滿活力，能鼓舞士氣，天生的領袖人物。能夠很快就作出決定，但不一定是正確的決定。他們看你是一個很勇敢，很有冒險精神的人，不管什麼事情你都願意去試一下，並在冒險中自得其樂。朋友們喜歡跟你在一齊，因為只要有你在，場面就熱鬧了。 41到50分： 在別人眼裏你是一個充滿朝氣、活力、魅力、風趣而又實事求是的人。在一堆人裏，你總會自然地成為中心人物，但人家不會覺得你有過份之處。在別人眼裏你也是一個和藹仁慈，能為他人著想，能了解他人的人；並能為別人解憂打氣，幫助別人解決問題。   31到40分：  在 別人眼裏，你是一個理智、謹慎、小心與實事求是的人。他們看你是一個很有聰明才智，而又很謙虛的人。你不是一個很容易交朋友的人；不過，你對交上的朋友， 絕對地忠實，同時認為朋友也該這樣地對你。那些認得你的人知道，你絕不輕易動搖對朋友的信任；不過同樣地，一旦你對這種信任開始懷疑之後，你也需要有很長 的時間才會恢復這種信任。 21到30分： 你的朋友覺得你是一個極 端小心與喜歡挑剔的人。在他們的眼裏你是一個非常謹慎，過份小心，兢兢業業的辛勞工作者。他們若看到你臨時衝動作出什麼決定的話，定會驚奇死了。你對每件 事都會左看右看，從每一個角度觀察衡量後，最後還不一定通得過。這是由於你對任何事都太小心的緣故。  21分以下： 人們認為你害羞、緊張、優柔寡斷，並需要被照顧。你總需要別人來替你作決定，同時也不願與任何人深交，或進一步參與任何事。別人看你總是在憂慮，為一些不成問題的事擔心。也有人覺得你這個人很單調無趣。只有那些真正認得你的人知道你並非如此。

費爾醫生（Dr. Phil）的測驗         

這是一個非常有意思的性向測驗，也是今日許多大公司的人事室給屬下職工與可能成為該公司新雇員的一項測驗，用以幫助了解每一個人的性向。

這項測驗不但頗為準確，而且只需花兩分鐘的時間。有些人還要去心理醫生診所花大筆錢做類似的測驗，所以大家不妨試一試，蠻好玩的，不過在讀了自己得分的分析後，也不必太過認真。

測驗總共只有10個簡單的問題，大家拿好紙筆，將選擇題的答案一一按順序寫下，然後按得分表將總分計算出來。

  PS我自己測完得分45分，看完分析，覺得蠻準的，至少，是我自己很希望的樣子。

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